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BREAKING UP
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Danielle
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What do you think the best way to break up with someone you have been seeing for a couple of months quite intensely, saw them almost daily and spoke on the phone several times a day. A few years ago when I was faced with this situation except it had been a shorter period of time and maybe not quite so intense, a friend of mine suggested i just don't call him and don't take his calls and eventually he would get the hint and go away. I didn't do that because I thought it was disrepectful. Not only that but stressful because I would be dodging his calls and if I ran into him somewhere it would have been extremely uncomfortable. What do you guys think? - Sat, 6 Oct 2007 8:41am
Andrew
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just be totally straight up with him. - Sat, 6 Oct 2007 9:55am
Doc
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What I'm about to say may sound totally flippant, but it isn't. A friend of mine has had great success in the past by telling a guy that she doesn't want to see him any more, waiting a few days, and then calling the guy up and saying:

"Hey, do you remember my friend so-and-so, well she's been interested in you since we were dating, and I think that you should give her a call."

It astounds me haow often she was able to use this ploy to smoothly transition out of relationships. Mind you, I think that she only did it so that she wouldn't feel bad when the guy in question saw her with her new boy toy (who often entered the picture before the initial break-up.

As to how you should handle your situation, first, I need to know if this is a person that you wish to continue seeing in a Platonic manner, or if you want him to just begger off and go away.

Red casts are cool, but not on my son.
~Doc - Sat, 6 Oct 2007 10:14am
ROSS B AY
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Fuck all of his friends. - Sat, 6 Oct 2007 10:38am
Sati
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yep, that should do the trick.
if it doesn't, get back to us. - Sat, 6 Oct 2007 11:16am
trevor corey
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Ross, lol. You're so emo. - Sat, 6 Oct 2007 5:11pm
trevor corey
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Just start calling him "sugar tits" when you are out in public together. - Sat, 6 Oct 2007 10:29pm
jeff
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just cut him off like zombie infected limb - Sun, 7 Oct 2007 1:01am
Danielle
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You guys crack me up. I was just curious that maybe the technique of "avoid and ignore" was just a guy thing. I wouldn't do it unless perhaps I had seen the guy once or twice and if he was not in any of my social circles.

Fucking all of his friends would be a surefire way of saying it's over but that would only work if all of his friends were hot and single.

The two words "sugar tits", in that order, would not likely come out of my mouth with any conviction or without hysterical laughter so that's out.

I go for the "straight up" aproach personally with the exception of being brutally honest if doing so would bruise the guy's ego too much. i.e. If I didn't want to see a guy anymore because I discovered that after spending a length of time with him that he was dumb as a post and any intelligent conversations with him would involve him explaining at great length how to put up drywall then I would sugar coat it somewhat and just say that "I don't think I am the girl for you even though you are wonderful!"

But I think just blocking someone's calls and ignoring them without explanation is fucking ignorant. So I just started wondering if other people find that acceptable and maybe it was just me. - Sun, 7 Oct 2007 1:27pm
MindlessMikeyJay
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Just tell him straight up...the way i did it was i told my ex i would just get a bachelor in the city, In Abbotsford and she would just go and move with her dad to finish her school. I gave my notice in our one bedroom and told her last minute i was moving back to vic. I just told her over the phone she was psycho. - Sun, 7 Oct 2007 9:54pm
Tyler
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sup ladies? - Mon, 8 Oct 2007 1:42am
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